Wednesday, July 14, 2010

One of my biggest faults.

(There are many, of course), but the one that I wish that I could get past is the fact that I compare myself to other women. 

All. The. Time.

It is such an undesirable trait and so hindering to my growth and my spirit. Just wondering...how do you get past things like this?  How do you move forward... loving yourself and your place in life... regardless of what others have accomplished or who they appear to be?

Especially in this blog world, don't you think?  Everyone putting their best foot forward.  I have tried to not be like that.  In fact, sometimes I might be a little too honest in some sorrows in my life.  But that is one thing I am proud of because if this IS my journal, then it needs to be about who I really am.  Imperfect.

So darling friends, what are your thoughts on feelings of inadequacy?  How do you stop comparing?

***UPDATE***  Heather just left a comment about a link to go check out and I have to say it was such a heavenly call to do so.. Check this out. I am so grateful to have read it. 

Plus, thank you so much...all your comments and thoughts are very much appreciated!

10 comments:

Sarah loves it all said...

I think it says a lot that you are willing to admit it. I think we all compare in one way or another. The only thing that works for me is admiring other's talents instead of envying. I also try to remember that we truly are all blessed with our own individual talents that are unique to us.

Ha ha jussome small insignificant thoughts from little old me.

I do feel like you're my friend though. I love how blogging can do that!

Serene is my name, not my life! said...

If you ever figure it out, be sure to let me know.

As for blogging, I agree. Although I'm not entirely sure taking pictures of my boys licking yogurt off the floor counts as putting my best foot forward?

Anyway, I go through phases. Sometimes I am perfectly content with who I am and other times, oh how I struggle with comparing.

A huge part is just counting my blessing. For some reason, that always makes me feel happy with who I am and what I have!

housewife said...

I think that is something women everywhere face as a constant trial. At some point or another...and I haven't figured out how to overcome it. Most of the time I just say "poo on you" I am who I am and if I'm doing what I know I should be...then the rest will just fall into place:)(hopefully)

Saimi said...

Seriously, I am who I am, take it or leave it!

I like Sarah's point though, I also love how blogging gives you friends out there!

Kathy said...

I think that when we have the Spirit we have the right perspective on ourselves and our lives. Father sees us for who we truly are and what the full measure of our creation is. Through the Spirit we too can have some of that perspective. Not that I'm perfect at always having the Spirit as I should, but when I do, I see things the right way. Just a thought.

heather said...

Angie in Pink wrote an amazing post on this topic. I linked to it in a post of mine a few days ago. It's SO WORTH going and checking out.

Kristie said...

It's funny to me that you compare yourself to others, because I honestly woke up this morning thinking about how awesome you are. And hey, if you need a boost, how about comparing yourself to me? yesterday I was aimless (and braless) until about 1:00 in the afternoon, when I decided the kids probably needed to eat. Pesky when they're hungry, those kids. I feel sure you were dressed and getting something accomplished long before me. We shouldn't compare, and I don't really, but I do admire you, your creativity, your strength, -and I am grateful for your generosity and talents, and just for your true friendship. you're a gift, Carrie.

p.s. (when I do feel not-quite-wonderful, I write in my private journal and pray to see myself as God sees me. it never fails to help.)

Evelyn @ Hanging by a Silver Lining said...

In my head I think I do anything BUT put my best foot forward on my blog. I wonder how I come across to other people. I figure if I can't look as good as everyone else, why not look bad? Or something like that... I don't know. The blog world is an ugly place sometimes...and then you read a post like this where someone who you thought was "perfect" admits they feel they aren't. Funny how that works, huh? ;)

Tara said...

I am terrible with this! I do it with everything but somedays I have to sit back and think I might not be the best at this and that but my kids love me for what and who I am and choose me for a reason. Cause I am awesome right ;)

likeschocolate said...

I have been working on this one, trying not to compare my weight with others. Then it hit me when I was reading Nie Nie blog that how she would probably give anything to have a body that did not ache even if it meant a few extra pounds. So I am working on it being grateful for the healthy body that God gave me even if it has a few extra pounds.

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