I have come up with a few reasons why it's OKAY to have a baby a good 7+ years after your first 2.
+While they are in school all day you get that one-on-one baby time. It's like having your first all over again
+I can sleep when the baby sleeps :)
+Extra hands when you need a diaper or burp cloth
+Fun older siblings to look up to that will do things parents don't always have time for or want to do (ex: movies, shopping, treats etc)
+College expenses won't be so overwhelming with all the kids in school at once
+I'm probably more emotionally mature to handle things than I was with my earlier kiddos
Anything else? Anybody wanna give a high five to the idea?
This Mama needs convincing in order to make a well-rounded optimistic decision because I read this and it was super disheartening...
Seven or more years apart (from this source)
I put this category distinct from five and six years apart because once you get beyond about six years spacing, the older sibling becomes more like a parent to the younger. Granted, a seven year old is not very “old” when your baby arrives. But by the time your baby is two and three, you will have an almost baby-sitter on your hands as well. Siblings that are spaced this far apart rarely bond the same way that sibling spaced less apart do. And this can be very good or very bad; sometimes the sibling pair really hits it off and the older has a soft spot for their baby. But you have to help create this dynamic through modeling and opportunity. Otherwise, the temptation is to get two very independent people who just happen to live together, or an older sibling that resents having to take care of them self and the younger baby. So you have to watch out for this.That said, I know two mothers who have had children almost a decade apart, and three of them—one in the twenties, one in the thirties, and one in the forties. These mothers may have had their first too early when they weren’t really ready and then went back to career. They enjoyed working and had the second when they were really ready, in the early thirties when other people were having their babies. Then when they were thirty-nine or forty they had an “accident” pregnancy or just decided they wanted to have another baby in life. And they really liked this. I think they liked it more than the siblings did. For whatever reason, it was really fulfilling for them to bring up children eight to ten years apart, and they felt like a completely different person each time they had a baby. I don’t know about how the siblings will feel about this when they’re older… I suspect they will find it harder to relate. But maybe not if they live close together and can start a good relationship when they’re older.